No matter how you spin it, it’s still sex for money

Posted on August 1, 2011

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Tuition.

It’s a scary word for every college student.

Loans.

And there’s an even scarier word.

The cost of going to college has become outrageous. As the economy goes down the drain, tuition everywhere is skyrocketing. There are the lucky ones who either have  rich enough parents or who receive enough financial aid/scholarships that covering the cost isn’t a huge issue.

But for a growing number, paying for college and paying back loans after college is a huge difficulty. What has become the answer for more and more women?

SeekingArrangement.com – a site where “sugar babies” hook up with a “sugar daddy” who will cover various costs in exchange for companionship, and most often, sex.

“College students are one of the biggest segments of our sugar babies and the numbers are growing all the time,” said founder Brandon Wade.

Read the in-depth article about this here. It begins by telling the story of Taylor (name was changed), a 22-year-old student at Hunter College. She joined the site when she was faced with $15,000 in unpaid tuition and hooked up with a “sugar daddy” from Greenwich, Connecticut.

“Once in Greenwich, a man who appeared significantly older than his advertised age of 42 greeted Taylor at the train station and then drove her to the largest house she had ever seen. He changed into his swimming trunks, she put on a skimpy bathing suit, and then, by the side of his pool, she rubbed sunscreen into the folds of his sagging back — bracing herself to endure an afternoon of sex with someone she suspected was actually about 30 years her senior”

It’s incredibly sad. And the strange thing to me is that most of the women that use this site don’t consider what they’re doing to be prostitution. Barb Brents, a professor of sociology at the University of Nevada says:

“These college women didn’t see themselves as sex workers, but women doing straight-up prostitution often don’t see themselves that way either. Drawing that line and making that distinction may be necessary psychologically, but in material facts it’s quite a blurry line”

It sure sounds like prostitution to me. It’s an ironic twist. Going to college is a way to avoid a situation where one would turn to prostitution. We usually think of a prostitute as a woman without an education or formal job. But increasingly, college-educated women are engaging in this.

A study which ranked the top 20 schools with “sugar babies” has shown New York University to be at the top of the list with 498. Harvard University comes in at No. 8 with 231 “sugar babies”.

Shouldn’t this send up a red flag? That…oh I don’t know…tuition is just a bit too high? The fact that students are resorting to this just to get through college is completely unacceptable. And we WANT people going to college. Our economy depends on it.

Tuition has to be lowered country-wide somehow. The government should be putting more money toward education so public universities don’t need to keep raising fees. And private schools, where tuition is highest, need to find some way to lower costs as well. At the very least, programs should be implemented to help these students out so that they don’t join the site in the first place. Something, anything, needs to be done.

Jennifer, another girl interviewed, said of the arrangement with her “sugar daddy”:

“Yeah, sure, he could have been a psycho, a killer. Barring rape or death, what’s the worst thing that could happen to me?”

Oh, I don’t know…going through life ignoring that you’ve been victimized?

 

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