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Posted on June 8, 2011


Ke$ha just tweeted:

“How do we feel about online dating? Thoughts? Discuss”

And then answered her own question with this tweet:

“Kinda creeps me out. Computers now have taken over all communication. human interaction. now love?”

So online dating…is it good or bad? Is it strange and unnatural to find love over the internet? Or is it a good tool for people who just aren’t having luck out on the field?

Online dating is becoming increasingly popular. In 2010, 1 in 5 singles (as in, not married) were in a committed relationship with someone that they met on a dating website. 17% of married couples during the same year met on a dating website.

More and more young people are using online dating. In fact, several sites are geared toward young adults. Personally, I don’t think a young person should turn to online dating so quickly. There’s a quote that goes: “When so many are lonely as seem to be lonely, it would be inexcusably selfish to be lonely alone”.At our age, everyone is looking for the same thing: love. I’m not saying it’s easy for a young person to find it, but honestly, there are thousands of people out there just like you, trying to find another person to share their life with. So why turn to superficial means so quickly?

And should young people be doing it at all? Stephen Betchen discusses the pros and cons of online dating in an article from Psychology Today: Magnetic Partners.

The pros he gives are:

  • It’s preferable over going to the bar. You have a better chance of getting a date because you can control how people view you.
  • It reduces the odds of being humiliated. It’s much easier to be rejected over the internet than face-to-face.
  • Online dating is convenient. You can choose people based on what your preferences are. Also, you don’t have to leave your house for a date.
  • It’s fast. No need to wait to be set up with someone.

But Betchen concludes by saying:

“Like anything else in life online dating has its pros and cons, but it’s too damn fast, and when something comes too fast and comparably easy, we don’t trust it—it can’t be a good thing—it can’t be authentic. Relationships should be less predictable and worth waiting for. We have too much control over a romantic process and in turn, we’re killing the romance”

I’d have to agree, for the most part. I think there are exceptions, but overall, relationships should develop when you put yourself out there, meet someone face-to-face, and get to know him or her by having real-life conversations and experiences. Maybe I’m wrong, but I’d say love is worth that effort.

So after reading this, how would you answer Ke$ha’s question?


Posted in: Relationships